I just started dating someone I really like, but he’s moving to Mexico for six months. Should I spend the money to visit him?

You’re weighing an early-stage romantic connection against the financial and logistical cost of visiting while your partner is overseas for six months. Because the relationship is new, a visit could clarify compatibility and deepen the bond, but it also requires committing money, time, and emotional energy to an outcome that isn’t certain. Start by clarifying what you want to learn from the trip and what success would look like. Are you hoping the visit will confirm long-term potential, or is it mainly about maintaining momentum and closeness while he’s away? Defining the visit’s purpose will help you decide whether the expense is proportional to the likely benefit. Discuss expectations and logistics openly with your partner before booking anything. Talk about who's paying for what, how often you’ll communicate while he’s away, and whether either of you envisions more visits. Being transparent about finances and intentions reduces misunderstandings and ensures you’re both aligned about what a visit would mean. Consider alternatives if a costly trip feels risky: video calls, a shorter or cheaper visit, meeting halfway, or planning a shared trip at a later date when the relationship is more established. Also factor in practical considerations like time off work, visa or entry requirements, personal safety, and any pandemic- or country-specific travel advisories. Finally, weigh emotional risk alongside financial cost. Investing in a visit can accelerate intimacy, but it can also amplify hurt if things don’t work out. Choosing an option that keeps you comfortable financially and emotionally—whether that’s visiting, postponing, or trying lower-cost ways to stay connected—lets you support the relationship without overextending yourself.